Self Love

Songs of Songs 4:1 NIV “How beautiful you are my darling! Oh how beautiful “

Mirror Exercise:                                          21 Day Self Love Journey
I love you (say your name)
-Day one:Find three things that you love about yourself and say them to yourself daily.
Increase saying what you love by adding one thing each day. Be you up or down, confident or struggling with low self-esteem. It helps us to hear I love you from you.

For the Journal-Self talk-

Start with one and add something each day.

I am- positive

I will- believe it

I can- the things you feared, say you can overcome them.

Be honest with these. I challenge you to do these before you meet others in your day.

It’s time to reconnect with yourself. It’s time to love yourself first and without limitations. You were deserving of the greatest example of love from our Creator. Why are you walking around and not believing that?

“Talk to yourself like someone you love.” – Brene Brown

The Sun Didn’t Leave You

While doing chores, the television was on. I heard the actor say “the sun didn’t leave you”  He said something about it making room for the moon. “The sun didn’t leave you.”

It caused me to think of how easy it is to question actions and motives of those around us, when they go down.

“I’m having an issue, my husband is not showing me, love.”

“I gave my children the best I could, but now no one shows me, love, not even to call me.”

“I was there for her/him where are they now?”

“I have prayed for them, who is there to pray for me?”

Our emotions can be manipulated, by so many different things around us, which can affect our moods and perspective. This is not just for those who think negatively almost all the time. However, for those of us who lead positive lives but as Nicole D said to me “we go down the rabbit hole sometimes”

Going down the rabbit hole causes us to forget the promises of God. In Genesis 2:14-17 He said let there light, and there was. Since the day He said so, the sun has not failed to be in the sky or the moon and stars. What has He said that you are choosing not to believe when thinking the sun has left you?

People tend to ask me ” how do I do this, how can I change how I think?”

Hide the Word in your heart. It’s a guide for everyday living. For some of us, we have to write the positive down so our eyes can see it and then literally open our mouths so our spirits can receive it. It’s from that place of speaking the truth, consistently, that will help us to take God at His Word. For those that are unsaved. Once you begin to use the scriptures over yourself, hope rises.

For the Journal

I am who God says I am. I am loved. I am here for a reason. I can overcome the obstacles before me, through Jesus Christ who gives me strength. I am above the things that set out to destroy my peace. I will get through this grief from sudden death and job loss. I will see the good in the situation, so that which was meant for my harm will work out for my good. I will hold on to the love that has been evident in this my relationship. I will see the moon and stars and know that God’s Word has not failed.

Friends Take your head out of the darkness. Look up and see the light. Feel the love. Keep moving, keep pressing. Hope is in your future. Don’t rush to conclusions, give yourself time, give the other person time, and give God time to reveal things to you and heal you from within. Look at the lights Nicole captured in her picture, even if your eyes can’t see a single star in the sky, they are there. Let there be, has not gone undone to this day.

Started with the sun, ending with this reminder, the Son didn’t leave you. He is at the right hand of the Father making Intercession for you. Lift your chin off your chest, don’t go down the rabbit hole. Pull the thoughts into the light.

I love you.

Smell the Roses

She said play your favourite song. Friends remember to smile, to laugh. Remember, to enjoy creation. You don’t have to decide if you deserve it, you do.

It’s not your happiness traded for the happiness of the children, husband or household. Sing with them, dance with them. The best you is a better person for them to love and enjoy.

For the things, you could not have changed this week. For the things that made you angry or anxious. For the people that affected you negatively. All that could have been handled differently. As you examine the week behind.

Appreciate today, do something that doesn’t cost any money. Or do something that does.

For the Journal – I will do something to remind myself that I am a part of the Master’s plan. Nothing happens to me without God knowing. Write down what you do to connect with creation. Whenever you have had a stressful week or feel frustrated do this.

Now put your record on and smile friends.

Deconstructing The Lie

John 8:32 ESV “and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

What makes a shoelace? How to tie the shoelace. Hold both ends and make a hole, put one end through the other, and draw it tightly.

Many lies, we were made to believe go as far back as learning to tie a shoe. Where do you unlearn that? How do you reverse the lie? And find a different approach after you have done that.


I thought of deconstruction the lies that caused me to believe I was unloved or never experienced love. I went to one of my first relationships and asked now that we know what love is, did you love me? Why did I need to ask that? It had to do with the loudest thing the devil was saying to me “no one loves you”. Why does the devil need to tell me/us that?

For the Journal – I am loveable. God loves me and I believe it. God loves me and I deserve that love.

In the face of the lie, you must present the truth. It may not be safe to ask anyone, from your past. You however have to put the lie and truth side by side and look at who is saying it.

Our Creator has proven His love, by;        a.sending Jesus to give us eternal life.     b. Has He ever forsaken you?              Jesus came and became our example of how to live on earth. How to answer the lies. He showed us how through prayer and meditation we keep our peace.

I believe the enemy is mostly after our peace. If our minds are preoccupied with these things it keeps us from perfect vision, from fulfilling duties or at least slows us down.

Why did I feel like I was unloveable?

Journal Entry – What was the earliest memory of feeling abandoned or rejected?

For me, it was when my father really left. He was living in the United States but travelling back and forth during my younger years. Until 1993, he didn’t return until 2011. This public space has brought forth truth, which I did not acknowledge. It’s the age of wisdom, it’s the time of understanding. The season of deconstruction that will lead to a Better Me. A healthier Me.

I hope the strong, the brave, the bold girl who has not dealt with these lies, will do so for herself and her tomorrow.

Day One

I went to College in Springfield Massachusetts, for a short time. During which I met a girl her name was Daeone. I would later come to have a personal relationship with her mother and her children. Her mom used to say. ” It was new beginning, she was my starting over”. I thought it profound but I was sixteen, I didn’t understand it until today.

My sister lost her husband tragically in a car accident, and since then had been raising my nephew on her own. He is six and will be valedictorian of his graduating class. An extremely smart child and very tall for his age (just had to put that in ). I think she has been doing an amazing job, caring for and teaching him. She is still dealing with her grief. However, I think it’s commendable how she goes through her highs and lows but she is consistent with how she deals with her son. She made a post speaking about 365 days and that it doesn’t have to begin on January 1st. She said it begins whenever you decide to step out, whenever you decide to change and move into your new beginning.

Your Day One.

She caused me to think of the girl I met now 22 years ago. What her mother had gone through raising children on her own. I saw first-hand what my sister went through. I had my own life experiences that I wish I didn’t have. I have the newsletter A Better You opened before me. I considered the things I felt secure in and the things within myself that I needed to change to be a better version of myself. I could hear Myles Munroe speaking in my mind ” God placed what you are to do within you, you were born to do this”.

The choices we make affect us today and tomorrow. Be it smoking a cigarette to having a cup of coffee. Taking ecstasy, or smoking crack cocaine. Looking at pornography to reading your Bible. Telling a simple lie to speak the truth, buying gas at this station or choosing to drive an extra mile to buy it somewhere else, responding in anger or love. They affect us even if we don’t measure their weight.

For the Journal

What resolutions have I been making for years and have not been consistent seeing through the end of the year? What am I looking for, waiting for to live my best life? How can I work on myself to become a better me?

There is no need for shame and guilt when answering those questions. Be true to yourself. I also permit you to burn the paper after you have written down your answers. As you have been true to yourself.

Now think about this for a few days. You decide within May to begin your 365 days to a Better You. You may have multiple things to work on. Just start with one.

God wanted to teach me about new beginnings but I was too naive to learn. I didn’t understand Him then, today open your heart and mind. No matter your age physically, or spiritually. No matter your mental state. You can reinvent, and renew the mindset that keeps us a slave to circumstances and situations that are/were designed to kill us, designed to destroy our moral fibre and take vision, hope and faith from us. Daeone came at 16 to help me at 38. To help me at 25, at 30.

Journal Entry- I can start new. I will not hinder my growth. I will entertain good thoughts about myself. I am a good thing. I am worthy. God is inside of me, I will not fail.

Proverbs 16:20 “He that handles a matter wisely shall find good: and whoso truseth in the Lord, happy is he”

Handle the changes of life well friends, trust in the Lord and your happiness will be secure. Happiness is a state of mind, so be happy.

Daeone Starks Wilson I hope wherever you are, you are well.

About The Blog

Our lives matter. No matter what people tell you otherwise. God created everything for a purpose.” Edric Prim, 

I composed Reach One and I have realised that be it a spoken or written Word. There will be a testing of the Word.

I have often said to the women in my groups. That they will experience a season of testing that is, do you believe the Word you are using?

Do you believe that God is who you are declaring Him to be?

Immediately after penning the blog, I went into prayer. And the Lord spoke to my heart concerning people I was no longer in dialogue with. He brought back their number to my memory as He often does. He said give them this instruction.

Now, I consider myself one who is obedient to the Lord regardless of my state. Reach One. It has nothing to do with my feelings towards the situation, I walk with love and there should be no bitterness in me. Jesus is my example and I am not concerned about what the other person thinks, I am expressing the love of God to them.

I felt it necessary to share this experience after the blog Reach One. To encourage you to step out and move and don’t resist if the person you are to touch is someone who has hurt you in the past. If the situation you are lead

to would not be your first choice make it your priority. Remember, being positive and showing love towards mankind is not dependent on you being Christian. God has given all of His creation the perfect gift of love.

For the Journal

My ways are pleasing to God.

My attitude is right concerning the things of God.

I live more Spirit than flesh.

Reach One

If He lives within me, if He is with me, shouldn’t I show it? Shouldn’t the world be able to see me and see Him? Not referring to a look or an image.

If His Spirit lives within me shouldn’t that be seen in my actions? Without me making excuses of not being perfect like Jesus? When Jesus took on this corruptible flesh. To show me that it was possible to conquer the devil at 33?

At this age why does sin crouch at my door? Why am I still questioning who I am and my purpose to mankind?

In the great scheme of things, Jesus was born, lived a short life and has made the most indelible mark on our world. He is still the most revered philosopher, healer, deliverer spoken of. He did not live like a king with great armies like Alexander the Great.

He lived His life this particular way on earth. The King who became a man, leaving His armies behind and showing us how to be the best human beings. He did it for me to see, that my father did not have to be a king, Prime Minister, CEO of a big company but a ghetto youth. Who could have a daughter, and that daughter can teach, deliver, set captives free from her time with the Lord. Leave her mark where the Heavenly Father has given her dominion.

She can live a life and sin not. She can be happy and have peace. Raise her children in the Lord. She can have children, not her own hold their hands and guide them in the light. Each day she is given the opportunity that one -will reach one.

Each day that is recorded of Jesus in the scriptures He reached one or thousands and that one reached one or told of His goodness and mercy towards them.

Let the world come in contact with Jesus through you today. The man at the stoplight, the person on the bus, the lady in the grocery store, the what’s app group, your neighbour.

Servant Warfare by Steve Sjogren 1996

For the journal :

I walk in my divine purpose daily.

Each day I live my relationship with God gets stronger.

I am consistent in __________(say the thing that affects you).

I am deliberate in my actions of change.

My life is an example that God lives within me.

Two songs came into my heart while writing this blog take a listen

A Closed Mouth

It felt like being invited to function, you desired to attend. Putting on a nice evening dress and eating with people you had things in common with.

I, however, got dressed left my position. When I got to the restaurant I could not go in. My mouth seemed like it was filled with cloth and sowed shut. How can you enter a place to dine and your mouth can not open? Is this not the reason I got dressed to eat? They were waiting on me to join the conversation. My input was important to those around the table.

They thought I was drowning in “shallows where an elephant could swim”. So they shouted

Lafieta! Lafieta! Open your mouth! Come in!

Only voices in a distance, no one came even to the door to see, that I was looking glamorous but unable to use my mouth.

A closed mouth = a closed destiny I hear the preacher so clearly now.

I will open my mouth and declare the Word of God over my life and that of my children, my nation.

I will say of the Lord, He is my strong tower and in Him, I shall not be moved.

I will look to the hills from where my help comes. It comes from God who has made heaven and earth and He is not a man to lie.

I will trust in the Lord because my wisdom is foolishness to Him. He is my light and He will direct my path.

I lift my head in the night sky and say surely goodness and mercy shall follow (say your name)/Lafieta all the days of my life. I will dwell before the Lord forever.

Day 1

The Widow Seeks Justice

“God loves each of us as if there were only one of us.”

Luke 18 ESV “And he told them a parable to the effect that they ought always to pray and not lose heart. 2 He said, “In a certain city there was a judge who neither feared God nor respected man. 3 And there was a widow in that city who kept coming to him and saying, ‘Give me justice against my adversary.’ 4 For a while he refused, but afterward he said to himself, ‘Though I neither fear God nor respect man, 5 yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will give her justice, so that she will not beat me down by her continual coming. 

And the Lord said, “Hear what the unrighteous judge says. 7 And will not God give justice to his elect, who cry to him day and night? Will he delay long over them? 8 I tell you, he will give justice to them speedily. Nevertheless, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on earth?”

Be persistent in your action of prayer and Thanksgiving. Talk to God today more than how you talk to others. It may not seem like He is even listening but push.
Jesus has reminded us that God is just,He is faithful.The question is where is your faith? My faith? How will  He see us when we are praying ? Will He count us faithful?

“Take a moment and consider, what does prayer as a conversation with God look like for you?”Rachel G. Scott —uncomplicating prayer

Looking Ahead

Your Words are true and they will be manifested at the appointed time. 

Wait then with expectation as the groom waits to see the bride. With the right posture of waiting for Jesus to return a heart of faith.

So keep the commandments and sin not. 

Keep the promises before you, so your heart does not grow weary. 

The Bible has a prescription for every disaster so before turning to or Google, turn to God.

Hide the Word in your heart so you can keep afloat during life’s daily challenges. 

Know that no bestie, can replace the Holy Spirit and that’s the one relationship you should fight to keep.

Let’s see what else the 20’s come with. Let’s purpose to be deliberate and consistent on the journey to a better you.

You may have a physical hand to hold, you may not. This journey you are never alone. Remember that when you step into the morning or the night and feel the wind upon your face. You cannot tell the beginning or the end of the wind. So we cannot understand the great mysteries of the Creator, who has promised never to leave you nor forsake you. So be deliberate to trust Him, be consistent in trusting Him on this journey to be better you. 

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